Frequently Asked Questions

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The simple answer is, ‘no’. We are not linked with any other events at this, or any other, venue. However, there are people who attend multiple events in the area and it is possible you may see people you know from the scene. Of course, anonymity is a given at our events.

We think the name says it all! ‘Cum As You Are’ means exactly that. No matter what your interests, sexuality, preferences, kinks, or fantasies, you will be welcomed with open arms (and probably legs!). We will always try to cater to any specific requirements you may have but ultimately the party will be whatever the attendees make of it!

As many as attend! We can’t give precise numbers but we do limit the numbers so the party doesn’t feel crowded.

We make sure to keep the right ratio of male to female guests to ensure everybody enjoys themselves. This makes sure that everybody can play in a relaxed environment without feeling pressurised or rushed in any way.

Of course! We welcome everybody. However, we do limit the number of single gentlemen to ensure there is a good ratio of male to female guests.

Everything that goes on at our parties takes place between consenting adults. Nobody is ‘required’ to do anything with anybody unless they want to. However, if you are a clean, respectful, and friendly person, there is no reason whatsoever you will not be invited to play by other guests. Remember, all of our guests are here to have fun with other people. 

Our events are hosted in a beautiful, well-maintained, dedicated house in South London. The address is provided to invited guests when they book.

We don’t ask people what they do for a living. However, nothing at our parties is charged for. Anything which goes on is between consenting adults and no money is to change hands under any circumstances. If you’re asking if we hire sex-workers for the party, the answer is ‘no’. Depending on individual circumstances, we may make contributions to a guest’s travel expenses etc. but this does not mean they are required to do anything they don’t want to. Be respectful and remember you’re not ‘entitled’ to anything!

There is an abundance of free parking on various residential roads very close to the property.

There are a number of buses which stop very close to the venue and Sutton Train Station is a 10-15 minute walk. There are options to be collected from the station if necessary. Please contact the hosts if you need to arrange this.

If you want it to be! We are not a dedicated BDSM event. However, lots of our guests are interested in this side of things and will be more than happy to ‘show you the ropes’!

Why would you want to do that? If you want to have sex in privacy, do it at home! All of our rooms are open for others to come in. The only exception is when a room is used for filming purposes when only those who have given consent can enter while the filming is taking place. You can find out more about this here.

Yep. Condoms are required for penetration (vaginal/anal) including for toys and must be changed between partners. If a condom accidentally comes off or is broken, the partner must be informed immediately. Oral sex is at the discretion of the ‘giver’ however, permission must be obtained before you cum in somebody’s mouth. We recommend getting this permission before the oral sex starts so there is no uncertainty. It has been known for somebody who receives an unexpected load in their mouth to instinctively bite down so it’s worth being sure they’re OK with it.

Of course! Everybody is more than welcome to attend. We can’t guarantee numbers of any particular sexuality but we’re sure you’ll find somebody to play with!

Whatever you want! You can spend your time with us suited and booted, stark naked, wrapped in a towel, cross-dressed, in bondage gear, or dressed as a flipping T-rex for all we care! All we ask is that you arrive and leave in respectable state so as not to shock the neighbours.

Nope. We’ll take your word for it as long as you arrive and leave together.

Hell no! Our parties are a safe-space and we prioritise anonymity for obvious reasons! Cameras, phones etc. are not permitted to be used and we recommend phones are stored in the lockers so there can be no chance of misunderstanding.

Nope. Only those who have been invited and confirmed attendance will be admitted on the day. Please don’t think you are the exception because you’re not!

Everybody deserves to feel safe at all times and any behaviour which threatens, intimidates, or insults other guests won’t be tolerated. We don’t have an official ‘bouncer’ but if you want to be removed from the party by a load of pissed off people who are likely armed with whips and dildos, feel free to try and cause an issue! Needless to say, anybody found to breaking any of the party rules will be removed and barred from attending any future events at the venue.

We offer a range of snacky foods and soft drinks for our guests. If you wish to drink alcohol, please feel free to bring your own. However, drunkenness or irritating people will be asked to leave.

Yep, there is a smoking area out the back. 

No! Anybody found to be in possession of any illegal drugs will be removed and reported to the police.

You do you. But bear in mind that if you take hours to cum, you may find your partner gets bored and asks you to bugger off!

Obviously not! We don’t disclose our guestlist to anybody for any reason. If you want to know who is at a party, come and see for yourself!

Not really a question but it’s worth addressing. We were all first-timers once. We can’t get rid of the nerves for you but we can promise you a very warm welcome and assure you that you will not be pressured into doing anything outside of your comfort zone, unless you want to!

Not if your friendly and respectful. We have guests of all shapes, sizes, colours etc. There’s somebody for everybody and never is that more true than when dealing with people of a kink or alternative lifestyle. You might just find you are somebody’s ideal partner as you fulfil their own fetish!

Nobody likes someone cumming too early! You can get here up to 15 minutes before the start time but if you arrive before this, you’ll be sent to the shops or something so you’re not stood around making the place look untidy!

Yep, you can arrive anytime up until 10pm. After that, the door is an exit only.

Nope. Everyone has to bugger off at the end of the party.

Wow! You’ve outsmarted us then! Drop us an email and we’ll get back to you as soon as we can.